Your post is a little loooong there, maybe cut it down into two paragraphs next time so its easier on the eyes

. But as for sets and reps you should try to limit yourself to around 6-12 sets per a body part.
Rep schemes work like this. 3-5 is the prime range in which you will build strength, a weight that you can get at least 3 of and no more than 5 of. 6-12 is better suited for size gains. You know that a lot of cardio is bad for growth right?
You shouldn't really use the word "toned", you can get more definition by dropping body fat, but you can't build muscle and drop body fat at the same time mind you.