[chrispghmuscle]

Originally Posted by moorey

Seeing a psychologist for any condition, particularily one as personal as being abused has to be at a time the person can developed appropriate defence mechanisms to deal with the presented situation. The first defence mechanism many of us use is repression. The difficulty with this is if similar stimulus or if we are exposed to similar life situations then the we can find it puts us into a panic like state where we become overwhelmed with guilt etc and some people actually self harm or attempt or commit suicide at this time. The most common feelings ive come accross from victims( especially men) is that they remember getting excited physically, the guilt from this is for many overwhelming, but its important to remeber that fear and sexual response are very similar. Other common feelings seemed to be that people felt they lacked something, why them, its my fault, all this is usually used by the bastards to " condition" the person into believing they are somehow responsible. Many people go onto to develop a lack of self esteem, they may become repressed or promiscuous sexually. Developing an understanding that you were the victim and are no longer a victim and what was done to you was wrong and not your fault is the fundamental basis of any therapy. If this can be accepted by the person abused and they can develop an understanding of the " grooming" they were exposed to, they can begin to make sense of what happened to them rather as many people who have been abused relate to events as though they happened to a "third party" Perople who are abused are often given a life sentence of self hate, recrimination and some go onto to develop severe mental illness when often the person who was the catalyst to the person's condition is paroled from prison because he has demonstrated "reformed " behaviour by going on some accademics' therapy. The reason the therapy is successful is it is in controlled conditions, the parole board then do a registerd discharge order and "house" the bastard 100 yds away from a nursery( as recently happened in the uk) and whike the politicians live in their ivory towers away from this, children are exposed to this every year. Sorry for the rant, but ive worked with so many survivors, everyone of their stories still effects me!

Well put Jim.. I was waiting for your comments.. I don't know where exactly I place myself.. Well I know exactly where I place myself.. A self-survivor. I rebuilt my mind.. if you can understand that. It's really hard to explain in words.. I guess you would have to know what happened to me to understand the mental strain I went through.

Later in life I did confront this person.. I summound the courage to ask the question.. I got less of an answer than you might have expected.. There really is nothing more to do from that point on out.. except move on with life and keep that person from entering my own. And I will take Any & All necessary action to do so. ( Scratching chin ),, I think you know what I'm referring to.

Chris

[Shiver]

Unfortunately the success rate of rehabilitation in sex related crimes is staggeringly low -- that's when rehabilitation is even looked at.

Rehabilitation for sex crimes is not mandatory in the states last time I checked, and is based on the offenders odds of re-offending. Sounds too much like gambling with innocent people's lives to me.

Totally different viewpoint here, but I simply say if you commit a sexual crime against a child, you get lethally injected. I think it's simple, then again I'm not a real empathic person.

Not to mention, here in Canada, the average prisoner's living costs cost the taxpayers $26,000 a year, which is well above the national average income.

We could help to alleviate a small amount of stress on the federal budget, and a huge amount of stress on thousands of families a year.

My $0.02.