[lil-d]

I have been chilling with this girl since mid-may at home over the summer we've become very close with eachother. we did something together everyweekend pretty much during the summer she had mentioned that she wasn't looking at the time due to breaking up with her b/f of 1.5 years this march this year i understood and respected that but we still got close as the weeks went on just more "cuddling" yes i hate to use that word but there was no subsitute so yeah we had a 2 hour talk on the phone on saturday about all of this and for now she said that with the state she is in now and needing to heal and not wanting a relatioship that we should scale back the cuddling and just remain friends for now because it fees like we are on the edge between friends and b/f-g/f stuff. so i said i'm cool with that she also said like don't wait for to go have fun and she wasn't gaurnteeing that when she was ready i'd be that guy. i already talked to many friends of mine and a lot think it is sort of a test to see if i am truely dedicated to her which i am i care very much about this girl mind you that relationship with ehr and her ex was her first major relationship we're both 20 if that helps at all. but the decision so far by people is to stick with i tjust see what happens through time and stay as close as i can but not over preassure her i jsut wanted some advice and opinions

[lil-d]

if anyon eneeds any other details let me know i'm pretty open with anything

[Banshee20]

Does she still live in the same area as you right now? I got the impression that you may not live near to eachother.

I think you have the right idea in staying as close to her as you can without crowding or overpressuring her. However,(not to be discouraging) I just dont think its a good sign that she said she's not sure if you will be the one when she is ready. :( I would just make sure that you have a life outside of your hopes for her...so that if it doesnt work out, you wont be too crushed! Plus, being a woman...I can tell you that she may want you more if you appear confident/secure enough to carry on without her. Best of luck! Keep us updated. :Banane48:

[lil-d]

when at home she lives 2 mins away when we're at school i'm an hour east from home and she is an hour north, she doesen't have a car up there but i have one here, yeah i feel i can go on without her it's just this is the most i've chilled with since my ex passed away from leukemia 3 yrs ago

[lil-d]

well she didn't say she's not sure she said she isn't gaurnteeing i mis-worded it haha but keep the reply's coming i really appreciate it

[Ghosting]

Originally Posted by lil-d

I have been chilling with this guy since mid-may at home over the summer we've become very close with eachother. we did something together everyweekend pretty much during the summer he had mentioned that he wasn't looking at the time due to breaking up with his b/f of 1.5 years this march this year i understood and respected that but we still got close as the weeks went on just more "cuddling" yes i hate to use that word but there was no subsitute so yeah we had a 2 hour talk on the phone on saturday about all of this and for now he said that with the state he is in now and needing to heal and not wanting a relatioship that we should scale back the cuddling and just remain friends for now because it fees like we are on the edge between friends and b/f-b/f stuff. so i said i'm cool with that he also said like don't wait for to go have fun and he wasn't gaurnteeing that when he was ready i'd be that guy. i already talked to many friends of mine and a lot think it is sort of a test to see if i am truely dedicated to him which i am i care very much about this guy mind you that relationship with him and his ex was her first major relationship we're both 20 if that helps at all. but the decision so far by people is to stick with i tjust see what happens through time and stay as close as i can but not over preassure him i jsut wanted some advice and opinions

Umm...I realize this is not a laughinng matter, but this is not my area bro.

[lil-d]

it's cool i'm just looking for advice or opinions from people who are expierenced in this ares

[Ghosting]

Originally Posted by lil-d

it's cool i'm just looking for advice or opinions from people who are expierenced in this ares

You obviously didnt read my modified quote.

[skywalker]

Originally Posted by lil-d

I have been chilling with this girl since mid-may at home over the summer we've become very close with eachother. we did something together everyweekend pretty much during the summer she had mentioned that she wasn't looking at the time due to breaking up with her b/f of 1.5 years this march this year i understood and respected that but we still got close as the weeks went on just more "cuddling" yes i hate to use that word but there was no subsitute so yeah we had a 2 hour talk on the phone on saturday about all of this and for now she said that with the state she is in now and needing to heal and not wanting a relatioship that we should scale back the cuddling and just remain friends for now because it fees like we are on the edge between friends and b/f-g/f stuff. so i said i'm cool with that she also said like don't wait for to go have fun and she wasn't gaurnteeing that when she was ready i'd be that guy. i already talked to many friends of mine and a lot think it is sort of a test to see if i am truely dedicated to her which i am i care very much about this girl mind you that relationship with ehr and her ex was her first major relationship we're both 20 if that helps at all. but the decision so far by people is to stick with i tjust see what happens through time and stay as close as i can but not over preassure her i jsut wanted some advice and opinions

I feel you need to be agressive in a situation like this. Playing the waiting game will only allow her to entertain the possibility of getting back with her ex. The cuddling stuff means you're Money. Now go tell her how you feel, face to face.

[lil-d]

hard to be aggressive when she at school and so am i but i'll do my best

[bombdigity510]

i personally think if she sed u mite not b the one, then shes not comitted to u...also she is still hung up about ur bf means shes not over him and she doesnt wanna truly be with u 100%....i mean if u like her so much then stick with it.....but if it was me id give it a few weeks then id start giving up and moving on....sorry bro

[fallen]

I think you should just be you. I mean if your cool with being her friend be that cuz the thing is you never know who you may meet or who she may meet. If is was meant to be trust me it will be.

[lil-d]

thanks guys n girls we like are still gonna chill a lot and stuff and jsut let time tells what happens she neds to get her self in order and i'm just gonna live in the present not worry about the future and such