[ibanezman88]

i can't take it anymore.
everything is a problem.

my parents have a problem with me eating as much food as i am eating. they don't comprehend. the biggest problem is that they are not making an effort to try to comprehend.
my dad asked me, why are you eating all this food. and i said, that's how you gain muscle. and he said no its not.
my dad is not the type of person you can argue with so i just took it up the ass and shut my mouth but that was the dumbest thing he ever said.
i don't get it. in just 7 months, i went from squating 155lbs to 315lbs, from benching 155lbs to 225lbs, from deadlifting 245lbs to 385lbs and i went from weighing 120lbs to 160lbs. what more results can there be. by now he should be saying, i'm sorry you were right and i was wrong. he's 44 and he's been bodybuilding since the age of 19 and he still weighs less than me and i'm stronger than him.

another thing is that he keeps saying that i need to do crunches to get my abbs ripped and i do but i try to explain to him that it's over all low bodyfat that allows them to show. my mom wants to loose weight in her arms and he says that she should train biceps and triceps with light weight and lots of reps (which would be good because it burns more overall calories) but he think that it would burn the fat right in her arms since she's training them directly. he says i'm wrong about the diet thing and that my mom would faint and be too weak if she went on a diet because she works so much. and then i'm trying to explain how to loose weight to my mom. meanwhile she's eating chinese food right before going to bed.
all my family eats is white rice and it offends my mom when i don't eat her food as soon as she serves it. i save it for after a workout.
another thing is, i'm trying to do cardio 3 times a week for 30 minute sessions and my dad doesn't want me to because he thinks i'll get too skinny.

my boss at work thinks that you have to be sore after a workout and if you're not, then it wasn't a good workout. i'm trying to tell him that it doesn't work that way and he won't listen. he's a certified personal trainer and doesn't even know the basics of bodybuilding and wants to start using steroids already.

i'm sick of people asking me at work what i'm drinking a shake and what i'm eating and calling me a health freak or that i'm obsessed with working out and obsessed with my health. or that i live in the gym. and i don't talk about it to others. its just that they see me doing things and they ask questions which i'm forced to answer.

my dad goes with me to the gym and doesn't let me finish my goddamn workout because when he feels like leaving, we have to leave. and he does real quick ones.

i'm fucking 19 (about to be 20) and i would just like to do my own thing.

my parents and people are not supporting me and they're making me wanna say fuck it to bodybuilding.

i guess i'm not gonna be able to do a show as long as i'm living with these iddiots.


I WISH THE WORLD WOULD JUST LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE.

if you're not gonna sit and listen to me and try to comprehend what i'm doing, then shut the fuck up.

[wrestlingstalion2]

so im gonna go out on a limb here heh and say....move out. no one really agrees with there parents. and just ignore the crap, like dont bring those convos up and just eat how much you wat when you want. it comes back to that old saying. who cares what other people think heh. but stay tough, stay lifting and stay tough

[Ace Corona]

After reading your post, I thought long and hard for several minutes before I replied. I think I have a solution for one aspect of your problem.

Take the bus to the gym, don't go with your dad or you won't be able to get a good workout. Buy a monthly bus pass. This is the only solution I could think of to solve one of your multiple problems.

When I was 17, I told my dad I wanted to be a bodybuilder. I was living with him at the time, and he and my stepmother were dead-set against it, so I can understand where you are coming from. I'm 36 now, and I'm just now getting into bodybuilding, after wanting to do it for nearly 20 years.

Don't make the mistake I made, stick with bodybuilding, or you'll get out of it, and back into it, and out of it so many times that you won't make any real progress until you're in you 30's. That's what happened to me.

As for all the people who are ignorant, don't worry about what they think. Their opinions don't matter.

[1qwert]

man bodybuilding can be a lonely sport fo sho sometimes. alot of people are not going to understand the lifting, constant eating, and things of that nature. i think we all have been there where you are and it does suck but you have to keep driving on. Dont let hataz keep you from bodybuilding, use it as motivation to keep on doing what you've been doing. you have made some big improvements so keep at it and dont let let others get you down. I dont know many parents that do understand- cus i know my parents dont at all. Just keep at it man, an hopefully your parents will come around eventually. Props on the size gains

[Ace Corona]

Get the book "Arnold: Education Of A Bodybuilder" I picked up a copy at a used bookstore for $7.

In the first two chapters, Arnold mentions some of the same static from his family and associates that you described. Maybe you can adopt Arnold's attitude about the whole thing, and maybe after seeing the opposition he went through, it will serve as inspiration.

[julio40]

i used to have similar problems like yours. my father is also really hard headed and thinks his word is "the right one". some people cant change and wont understand. i recently started Keto diet with Thomas and few people know it because if my fathers knows about it he would think its wrong and that it wont work. its best to avoid and not argue and do your own stuff and detach yourself a little from your parents in that subject, it sounds cold and harsh but its better less problem and less arguing.

[cmart315]

Originally Posted by ibanezman88

i can't take it anymore.
everything is a problem.

my parents have a problem with me eating as much food as i am eating. they don't comprehend. the biggest problem is that they are not making an effort to try to comprehend.
my dad asked me, why are you eating all this food. and i said, that's how you gain muscle. and he said no its not.
my dad is not the type of person you can argue with so i just took it up the ass and shut my mouth but that was the dumbest thing he ever said.
i don't get it. in just 7 months, i went from squating 155lbs to 315lbs, from benching 155lbs to 225lbs, from deadlifting 245lbs to 385lbs and i went from weighing 120lbs to 160lbs. what more results can there be. by now he should be saying, i'm sorry you were right and i was wrong. he's 44 and he's been bodybuilding since the age of 19 and he still weighs less than me and i'm stronger than him.

another thing is that he keeps saying that i need to do crunches to get my abbs ripped and i do but i try to explain to him that it's over all low bodyfat that allows them to show. my mom wants to loose weight in her arms and he says that she should train biceps and triceps with light weight and lots of reps (which would be good because it burns more overall calories) but he think that it would burn the fat right in her arms since she's training them directly. he says i'm wrong about the diet thing and that my mom would faint and be too weak if she went on a diet because she works so much. and then i'm trying to explain how to loose weight to my mom. meanwhile she's eating chinese food right before going to bed.
all my family eats is white rice and it offends my mom when i don't eat her food as soon as she serves it. i save it for after a workout.
another thing is, i'm trying to do cardio 3 times a week for 30 minute sessions and my dad doesn't want me to because he thinks i'll get too skinny.

my boss at work thinks that you have to be sore after a workout and if you're not, then it wasn't a good workout. i'm trying to tell him that it doesn't work that way and he won't listen. he's a certified personal trainer and doesn't even know the basics of bodybuilding and wants to start using steroids already.

i'm sick of people asking me at work what i'm drinking a shake and what i'm eating and calling me a health freak or that i'm obsessed with working out and obsessed with my health. or that i live in the gym. and i don't talk about it to others. its just that they see me doing things and they ask questions which i'm forced to answer.

my dad goes with me to the gym and doesn't let me finish my goddamn workout because when he feels like leaving, we have to leave. and he does real quick ones.

i'm fucking 19 (about to be 20) and i would just like to do my own thing.

my parents and people are not supporting me and they're making me wanna say fuck it to bodybuilding.

i guess i'm not gonna be able to do a show as long as i'm living with these iddiots.


I WISH THE WORLD WOULD JUST LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE.

if you're not gonna sit and listen to me and try to comprehend what i'm doing, then shut the fuck up.

Honestly, I feel your pain on a lot of the stuff, mainly the other people in the world annoying the fuck out of you because they don't understand why you like eating so much or why the gym comes first over doing a lot of other things. Luckily when it comes to my parents, they are very cool with it, mainly because my dad see's the results that I've had. Granted I am also a bit older and it wouldn't matter what he said anyways, but I think thats the atitude you really should start taking. I know it may not be what feels right, but completely ignoring/being a bit of an ass back towards them is honestly what always worked with my parents. May not sound the best, but it worked for me and we still have a pretty good relationship. When it comes to you leaving early at the gym, why don't you just drive yourself? You're 19 I assume you have a drivers license?
And honestly when it comes to the ignorance of other people, like this trainer you are talking about, I have learned that the only way I can deal with people like that and feel good about it, is to just ignore them. You don't have to always help everyone, especially if they don't want to learn from you. Its not affecting you now is it? Best of luck to you and don't give up something you love for people who don't care to except that you have something you are passionate about.

[ibanezman88]

Originally Posted by Ace Corona

Get the book "Arnold: Education Of A Bodybuilder" I picked up a copy at a used bookstore for $7.

In the first two chapters, Arnold mentions some of the same static from his family and associates that you described. Maybe you can adopt Arnold's attitude about the whole thing, and maybe after seeing the opposition he went through, it will serve as inspiration.

arnold went through the same thing huh?

thanks so much. huge motivation right there.

[ibanezman88]

Originally Posted by julio40

i used to have similar problems like yours. my father is also really hard headed and thinks his word is "the right one". some people cant change and wont understand. i recently started Keto diet with Thomas and few people know it because if my fathers knows about it he would think its wrong and that it wont work. its best to avoid and not argue and do your own stuff and detach yourself a little from your parents in that subject, it sounds cold and harsh but its better less problem and less arguing.

detaching myself from the world and my parents is all i've been trying to do.

buy my parents like to get too involved with my life.

which can be bad in this case, but i've tried to pick up smoking like 8 times when i was 16 and got caught all 8 times because of their constant involvement. so i have that to thank them.

[ibanezman88]

Originally Posted by cmart315

Honestly, I feel your pain on a lot of the stuff, mainly the other people in the world annoying the fuck out of you because they don't understand why you like eating so much or why the gym comes first over doing a lot of other things. Luckily when it comes to my parents, they are very cool with it, mainly because my dad see's the results that I've had. Granted I am also a bit older and it wouldn't matter what he said anyways, but I think thats the atitude you really should start taking. I know it may not be what feels right, but completely ignoring/being a bit of an ass back towards them is honestly what always worked with my parents. May not sound the best, but it worked for me and we still have a pretty good relationship. When it comes to you leaving early at the gym, why don't you just drive yourself? You're 19 I assume you have a drivers license?
And honestly when it comes to the ignorance of other people, like this trainer you are talking about, I have learned that the only way I can deal with people like that and feel good about it, is to just ignore them. You don't have to always help everyone, especially if they don't want to learn from you. Its not affecting you now is it? Best of luck to you and don't give up something you love for people who don't care to except that you have something you are passionate about.

i have my licence. but you know, my dad taught me everything there is to know about weightlifting, form, and routines so i can't thank him enough. he see's it as, if i ditch him and go by myself, he sees it as betrayal. after all he helped me to do, i "betray" him and do my own thing.

and then he won't talk to me for days.

thanks for your advice and motivations. i appreciate it greatly.

as for everybody else's coments.

thank you all so much and i hope you all have a very merry Christmas!

[under construction]

dont ditch your dad entirely just take different vehicles train with him till hes done and tell him you will see him at home you just want to get a couple more sets in. As far as crazy ass advice from idiots thats never going to stop so get used to it everyone has an opinion on training and every guy wants to pretend to be an expert. over the years I cant tell youhow many people at parties, family get togethers, concerts,work and many other places start